House of Cards: An LGBTQIA2+ Podcast
House of Cards: An LGBTQIA2+ Podcast

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House of Cards: An LGBT Podcast: Relationships

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Today! we talked about the luner new year and mercury being in retrograde. We told what our toxic and good parts of ourself in relationships. Our topic today was Unhealthy and Healthy relationships! our music was Cigarettes J cole x joey badass Jazz lofi type beat 

Hello, people of the interweb, welcome to the helps of cards and lgbt q community podcast, where we talk about our Gbtq. I am one of your hosts, Jackson, Jackson, time and Alter Egos, and I go by. They didn't pronounced I'm gone. I usually they pronounced I'm very sleepy kids from that's cute. Did you like get home and just immediately fall asleep? You were like hey, home, good night. No, we're like because I think that you would. Yeah, I feel like you're a bit like Jeff he's been on the podcast. You should go go watch them. No biner video to who figure out who jesses, because I feel like Jeffer fall right asleep like just would get home and just and you have the same vibe ess. I mean we've had to wake them up for DD so, but that's in the morning. Like that makes kind of my sense, because just asn't really sleep. It's at the morning. It's two PM, two PM, that's not the morning. Just doesn't sleep. Did you forget that? Okay, just just does not sleep. Anyways, I am Ariam. I am your last host and my pronouns are she hurt. I kind of goot about a ram and be honest, there. Thanks, literally, as we're talking right now. It's the way, who's a very hi'm every wait doesn't a for you. Who knows this, this unrenounced person who I do not know. Gosh, who knows? Man, I am an omen. I bet it's my ax, you wish. I cannot talk my from my unhealthy relationship, which is not a topic today, because a topic is exact. Well, sort of. We talked about relationships today. It's a very actually, you know, it's a very good like topic for today. Simone, do you want to tell us a why it's a good sub topic for today, if you think I know what the topic is? Oh, toxic relationships and healthy relationship, just relationships, good and bad relationships, no relation to your experiences. Have held them down, but some of them have been good for other people. Simone. Oh me, no, I'm just like, yeah, I said like you'd be a good person to say why today's episode it is very either Ironic, hilarious or relevant. HMM, any of those three options. Okay, Simone needs to promote. Oh true. Okay, y'all jumped right to the topic. Well, you know, I talked to the topic like I need to proope but then Jackson was like okay, no, no, I was saying like do you want? Do you want to say why it was relevant? Because who? Who came to your school today? Fu Okay, so you know how when you date someone for the...

...first time and then when you break up, they massively break your heart? Yeah, okay, so that XX had been homeschooling because of covid and they can't wolsing back into the school. Today I'm sweaty from Jim Class just trying to get to social because I got lost. Of course you got lost and I'm like grab my haircut. Now I'm like, okay, go off little fucking anyway. Anyway, right, that's okay. Yes, you can found us on Instagram at House of cards, underscore podcast, I think that's right. Lgb On twitter a lgbt underscore deck. Our patreon is house of cards. Are Tumbler is its house of cards and our website is LGB. I don't fucking know what a website is. I'm a blatant Leon as all website. Okay, you do have to say the website. I know you're tired, but I really don't know what it is. I can't remember, Kate, I thought you have a notebook? Yeah, it's across the room because it's also my shit notebook for school. You have too many tiny review notes for math and fette. What we need by an Lgbkey podcast on flash cards. You Draw Shit in there and it's just like a mind dump. It's a wonderful, be beautiful thing. Everyone should do it. That's quite pantosen Um. I mean I can't drop for Shit, but go off Oh like. So that's why I so today's topic. I've decided we're not topics. I'm read it quick, I'm fastful. Oh my God, that is how I dug. No, so today's music. So again we said, instead of having to like say, here's the exact so on the son will be in the description of the podcast. So if you like it, go check it out. It's there. But I'm going to say the VIBE that the music is and today's Vibe, because talk about relationships and normally none of us on a relationship, which means we've all had a break up. Nope, I'm in a relationship, even not. I've literally never dated anybody. Okay, but you all wheel. There was the Porson. Yeah, we've all felt pain, we've all felt pain. We forgot someone was dating something that. Oh my God, the moon gives all something. That's the point, because I like attention. We little been hot broken. So today's music is going to be based off of bad bitch. It's just July, by knows. It's just the light. Yes, no, it's gonna be Baddie, like I'm a Baddie, because you know, we all go through the sad stage, but in the end we really the end stage is the you need,...

...like the Demi levado confidence playlist. Yeah, like that, I wish. Send it. Send Me Yours, heavory, we all know you have one of those playlists. Oh, damn right, I do. Oh my God, I do too, but it's just a shanty's not what I think. One of you was more bisexual than the other. I don't want to say who it is, but everyone knows who it is. I don't even know what changing the subject, no one can know why I'm not as another thing that I put on our agenda actually today, is the Ludnar. Did I even say that right? And I having a strong New Year, yes, don't. Yeah, mercuries and Gatorade right now. Why? Gatorade, mercure and retrograde. Don't text your x. You can't done, you can't. Um, I love what we're making, all of these hilarious relationship jokes, but, like, will probably doing it, not on purpose. I'm doing it on purpose. I like honestly, I don't even think because of the topic is relationships. So we're not doing it like because the topics relationship. We just doing it because we've done asses. Oh Yeah, is there a joke about the moving your New Year and relationships? Am I missing something? That's mockery, reckoning. That's something. That's that's some mom being a Baddie. I know everybody knows what the Zodiac stuff is. True. Yeah, I'm here. We going last week about it. Oh my gosh. Okay, so when mercury goes into retrograde, basically it makes everyone act really weird, like technology gets fucked up. Mood swings happen a lot more often. People are more inclined to do harmful things to themselves, like texting their exes. Don't do it. The planets are fucking with you. God, don't. Okay, okay, yeah, Lunar New Year. Good, I'm good. I'm I was just saying, like, happy New Year. Y'All have turned this into something else entirely. Goodness. I don't know why. I don't know if the lunary years even related to what someone was saying, but we'll get what ten like it is. It might be I'm waking up. I just got my eating head working because my windows are rotting in it's cold. We decide to cut some out of the PODGRESS, but today semone is just exhausted. Just started school sone. I'll stop. Yeah, leaves the call. Yeah, okay. Are we doing a game or should we...

...just get into it? Yeah, we are doing a game, but this time it's torture. What have you better put your Larry Crops on. Oh my God, think chemistry. What do you want from me? Okay, Simon, that was so late. You said I'm doing chemistry right, like you responded to me saying, like what did you say? I've just been doing chemistry. Like, what else do you want for me? Chemistry? Chemistry is not touch. If you need help with chemistry, text me. Dude. I passed on chemistry without fifty two. I passed chemistry within an eighty one. What is wrong with Y'all? Eat? Help with the grade ten review, because I didn't do it because we were an online during that unit. That's hilarious. Anyway, back to my sadness. Yeah, okay, so we're talking about healthy and unhealthy relationships. That's the top of for today, so I want to have our game be related to that. So I was thinking we say one healthy relationship, quality we have, and when toxic relationship, but quality we have. Now, avery, this will be very hard for you. So if you don't, I don't mean like love, romantic. Yeah, I'll just do friendship. Yeah, do friendship, I feel like means some moment most likely do romantic, just because that's what people who are relationships think about. But Simone, if you don't want to do romantic and rather say were your friendship bad, toxic quality is, you will swead ahead. You Do, you baby, I'm gonna stop. You fit valid. But yeah, that's quickly. Will probably get it. I don't know if that's part of the script because I did not write it, but relationships are not just love people. They are not. I know it's it's strange, but they are not. Oh yeah, I didn't put that in. Actually, really, there's your this climo right now. Will be saying it throughout the episode. Get used to it literally for acting with any other human being. Like yeah, it's just not romantic unless it is. That's extremely re call the police. Just just just call the police. Just just just call them. Having called, make it easier on everyone else and just call them anyway. LETTS stanway not simone. So with avery. Okay, I think. I mean, I'm just guessing here. I don't exactly know. I mean, I hope I'm a good friend, I hope, but I quality. Tarant we all ships. I'm sorry, I for you. I know I say this a lot, but you are not perfect, ucky, but there are some things you do that could that maybe taught. Talk like you're not manipulated. You sick. I'm manipulated. I use all...

...my friends again, but what I was saying was like just just something we think, like hey, I kind of do this and I really try not to put it something that I just kind of do and is not the best thing for me to do. You know that's don't well, if you want to tell us, like I don't know, like I don't know how to explain it. I'm trying to think so hard right now. It's like, you know, when someone asks you was to want for Christmas or something, and your mind blanks. I know exactly what I want. It's a Hoodie that says I'm an expellent. Oh my God. Okay, Um, I actually needed you. Guys. Are Wow done. I mean I think that I'm a good listener. Oh, you're an amazing sweete. Okay, okay, when the right track here. That's something bad I do. Oh my God, I can name Tetna, so just go off. I mean sometimes I just like leave conversations without saying anything. Yeah, that's that is something that's slightly annoying. I realize you did he for you. I'm having a break down. Sometimes I just decide I don't want to answer. Yeah, that's a little that's be talked to US tells, Hey, my brains say no, goodbye, and when buying, literally Stimmona and all of someone's relationships my brains, my brain says by to see you cee Yo. Awesome, I did it. You did it, Um Simone. How's your brain doing? Are you at fifty or seventy? Five percent eighty five, maybe eighty one, because because it's a it's a squirrel man. Okay, you can go. I believe in you. Um with my toxic drinks. That's a little bit more. Oh my God, I have it terrible. person, just person. Oh my God, is it bad that I can think of more than wha sort of it depends on toxity. If it's like very like that of cause people to like break down, they maybe, but if it's tough, like a res which is like sometimes I just leave, then that's like everyone has a few of those weird quoks that are a bit you know. Okay, if anything, I think that it's healthy that you're able to recognize the exactly I'm is that part of the script? Should we talked about that quick now? Okay, cool, every rite indn't brain is going to...

...go were very soon. Okay, okay, my toxic trey is probably like jealousy. Okay, literally, fuck anyone who's like jealousy is hot. It like shut the fuck up. No, it's not, like I've seen you. Jealousy like literally, shut the fuck up. Jealousy is not hot. Has Me crying in the gendered Footballsh but you are jealous and it makes me like very concerned, like I'm like why, why? What? You should not be dating someone? Yeah, and I think, like most of like when I get jealous. It does stem from, or it does start other issues as well, which is kindatoxic. I don't know, it's really toxic, like, let's be fucking on it. I was can name another toxic quality, but you know, we'll talk about that. That there. No, that's forcing. I think you too want yourself. I don't see you up too many actual toxic stuff. It's more of just like stuff that would not be necessarily seen as healthy. Yo likes. Yeah, it's just you of quarks. Yeah, you're number. She just special. She special, okay, an special. What's your positive trait? Yeah, it's like that's a hard one. Um, my positive trait is that I'm very loving. If I love you, I love you, you will do not with me. Bitch. I feel Simone gives me the vibes that like they would stab me in the back of in, like in the back, if they got the chiants to. We've Inter Scharl. Vibes changed my we have what Cannem motioning, James Charles. They're on camera relationship. That's us. I don't want any of them. Yeah, I've no idea. What should say, like get you sound crazy, smoke. We don't know what you're saying, Honney, we can't understand what you're saying. Please talk to us. I that's gonna happen when someone just starts talking in youtuber references. Yeah, I don't watch it, I don't watch youtube. I watch buzz fad on solid and crash. Course, grandma, is that you day line? But for yourn stores. That is me, a lie to me. I love solved. You see your turn. Suppose Yourself. Okay, toxic chase? I don't think I have one. And there it is Healthye, things I am...

...that be toxic. Give me a sec, I gotta. Let me just have a mental breakdown. Real question. Okay, an hour. I'm up. Let me just go through in a dente crisis and then I'll know honestly valid. Um. So my healthy one is. I'm trying to aim. Not Give me five second, honey. I struggled to just I can't. I can't say caring because like that's basic. No, friends, someone's carrying is different than my caring. So most actually very like I'll kill a bitch for you and would actually fell a bit. My carrying is like I'm talking Karen, and like the base way of like I'll text you back anyway. I'm I'm I'm a dog in the best way. I'm I'm very like I'm a very good listener, but on a sense of like like avery's a good listener, but I'm kind of I'm built different in that the sense that, like, my listening is literally just like not listening when, like, you need me to listen. But just in relationship thing, I know I literally to just stay silent and do whatever I'm doing and you just continue lessly talk, and that's my favoritable relationship is. I just I just like to sit and watch you talk about anything that's like let's go off on your shit, and you're like sorry, I'm talking too much. I'm like no, keep going. I'm like this is you're like would barely explain, in love with you. Yeah, I'm literally fun in love with you. Keep going. Um, my toxic trait is that I don't know how to waltz. So I'm a very I'm a physical kind of Porson, like not in like how it's but like, oh, I hope your feelings. I'm going to take you and get you a booker. I'll say sorry, but I'm not like I can't list a bunch of these reasons about like why, how you are amazing and like how much I love you, but I can show it. But, yeah, I'm not very good at the woods, like when I'm having a problem those two, I just I can't express it at all, so I end up just suffering in silence and and then eventually becoming petty and then, you know, ruining the whole relationship. Anyway, do you think I'm right? Help you to learn sign language? It's not it. I can't. It's not. I could say it in French. I could say if I can't put the woods together. So inside it would just be me, hello, help. It would be the same thing talking morbally. It would just be with my hands. Okay, so it's more like the actual...

...communication aspect. Yeah, I just can't put the woods together. I can butt like and it normally only comes in like with positive things. I'll like show it MEA physically, but non you know, physical I'll just end up bobbing up until I explode. Oh, anyway, Darling, that was a fun game, don't you guys agree? We just exposed ourselves for spotify. Okay, let's get into the topic. The yeah, let's go right into the topic we don't need anymore, just all of us crying. Well, good rip. I'M gonna have an identity crisis later. Text me when you do. I will that on the chat. What is she even on the Jock? Simone, Simone, it's someone going on some out corn. Sweet, you're starting. Yes, hi, sorry, someone had to go hit the blunt. No, they're here. Okay, cool, hi, okay, so our topic is healthy splash toxic relationships. Content warning. Yeah, that whether you content warning if you have had previous problems of a recent toxic relationship or you have been in a very abusive relationship. We will be talking about many stuff that could cause triggering events. So why we would love to have you listen. We would much rather of view is be safe and enjoy their time in our podcast. So go ahead, get to the end and you can hear say goodbye to you. there. Also is actually a specific paragraph in which toxic and ambious two relationships are actually addressed, and there will be a trigger warning there if you just want to listen up to that point. Dude, which one is it? Can you like highlight our names and like read to whose it is so that they can save beforehand? It says In't the thing. It saysn't the thing. Okay. Could you also highlight it's just a like we know, check. Say Okay and then someone can get started. Yeah, sorry for interrupting you. Whether you're entering your first or ten or sixty nine relationship, there are always specific aspects to consider and to be aware of as you and your partner, partners, enter new dimensions of your relationship. The different types of relationships in terms of positivity are recorded on a healthy to abuse, the spectrum ranging from unhealthy to toxic. It is important to learn about the value of healthy relationships early on as a way to try and recognize any toxic behavior if you you may encounter later on. Once you're able to recognize these toxic traits, you can become more easily equipped to handle and maneuver on healthy relationships and, furthermore, learn how to get...

...out of them. This can be the most troubling aspect of toxic relationship, as a members can be bribed, manipulated and abusing to staying, which also leads to the fear of trying to leave. Another way to stay aware of turning tides in your relationship is by maintaining open and honest communication about your feelings and intentions. So did the carrotter characteristic. Why do you give me the pig woods? I'm sorry, I don't try to. I just think her characteristics. I'm not going to certain avery. Characteristics of healthy relationships that should be expected on mutual respect, trust, honesty, compromise, individuality, good communication. Sorry, that hit me ankle. Control, fighting, fair arguments are okay, and relationships understanding, problem solving, self confidence, consent. Go Watch your episode on consent, leading examples and having a healthy sexual relationship, whether that does or does not involve sexual intimacy on the lovers or struck with. I actually useless for my school. So well, yeah, that's what they gave me, a finalthy relationship. There's a pdf spectrum describing healthy relationships. Is a pinpoint. It pinpoints unhealthy relationships as not communicating, dispectful, not trusting, dishonesty, trying to take control, not spending time outside of of the relationship, unequal economical and pressure pressured into advance. And I just want to say quickly you may notice that you're sometimes doing the stuff and sometimes somebody doesn't realize they're doing this. The best way to fix that is to realize that you're doing them, talk to your partner, apologize to your partner, ask if they want to make it up or if they would rather not be in a relationship with you. Sometimes people mess up and normally if you fuck like cough up to your relationship and make up, the person will be understanding. But sometimes you realize, I have not been healthy in this relationship, and that's okay to realize that. Something else that I actually want to add on to that, that I forgot to write in here, is that it doesn't matter what your intentions are if your partner, or like your friends, says that you hurt them in some way, like you can't discount their feelings. Oh Yeah, yeah, I would also like to add something. It is maybe a better course to end the relationship if you feel you are being toxic or if you've been told you're being toxic, because that's something that's hard to change while you're going to free being relationship. I said that in the sense of like you could be friends, not just fromatic Oh so that's why I said in that way. Is I don't mean just romantic as,...

I mean as friends, and sometimes you may want to pull back your relationship from a friend to an acquaintance, from her boyfriend. Go friend, boyfriend, boyfriend, go friend, go partners to friends, or maybe you just count it out all. But again, sorry if I anyone thought I meant romantic. I did not toxic relationship. I've been everywhere. I got out of one friendship one so through. Okay, we're instigating this slight tricky now as we begin discussing the aspects of an abusive relationship and what to do. If you're recognizing these signs, so trigger warning, you can leave. We love you. Come to the end. Things we say. Characteristics of an abusive relationship include communicating in a hurtful or threatening way, mistreating of or by your partner or partners accusing the other being unfaithful when it's untrue, denying their actins are abusive, being controlling and isolating their partner from others. If you believe it's too unsafe to try and leave the relationship without external support. Love is respect to just creating a safety plan. In the case of an emergency, you can call or text them at one eight hundred and sixty six, three, three, one, nine, four seven four to speak to an advocate about your options or to try and understand the nature of your relationship. Additionally, the website has an interactive relationship spectrum for you to learn more, by giving you separate relationship scenarios to rate as unhealthy, healthy or abusive. Unhealthy or abusive relationship, it can be difficult to rediscover your confidence, worth or even value. To gain the strength to leave you're a five ways to find the code you already have to leave. Keep a journal. Keeping a journal allows you to express your thoughts as freely as they come mom and can sometimes help you recognize patterns in yours or others thoughts and actions. This could be your partner, so this could be your friends. How they talk about your partner finding joy through reconnecting with friends and family? If you've been isolated and giving into little things. Sometimes your partner will picnic things about why they think this person is bad. But if it's not affecting you, then it could be a lie or could actually not be as bad as I'm making it. Be Cutting yourself some slack. I did not read some slack pot if you're if you've survived this far, you are far stronger than you give yourself credit for. Don't. Don't rationalize your parents, your parent de mean partners? Is this say parents? Oh my God, Stepp you want to say, Oh my God, what's don't rationalize your partner's behaviors. This can be a sign of gas lighting, which is below which is believing responsible for another's negative actions. And Fine, support. It can feel very isolating in...

...an unhealthy or abusive relationship, and counsels can be a great help, or friends or people who really love about you. They can help you. Also, your mom. Go for it. Like to talk to her. Yeah, or you guy, or if that's are great. You have two dads, or if you have two moms, or if you have one dad or one mom, one parent, if you have a good relationship with any yeah, anyways, all in all, you should go the supports has, whether that's creating a safety plan in case of emergency and putting away money in a secret account. Unfortunately, unhealthy relationships can be more common than most expect and off more often than not, people who find themselves in these relationships would have never considered, they aid, they'd end up in one again. Help stay safe. Remember that abuse is not a one way street. Men Can use women, women can abuse men and everything in between. Furthermore, you are valid as book, valid as fuck. One gonna get like like someone's going to have Adda, like Kate. You can't swear if you want to keep getting money. And we'll get up to be like valid as potatoes, Altas heck. Well, no, found US potato, but God, I think we should say valid as potatoes as our second catch rage. I think sparkles, but okay, I think potatoes is funnier. I love it because we should just say random things, because not Falda, sticky notes in valid, valid as want in love. So that was keeper. Then the joke were supposed to go. Valadis spray chees, Valdispreche. Well, it is a free movie, DSTER can. Oh My, you know we all have to have food some way. True, true, true, Valot US US talk about it as fuck, fuck, but yeah, that's really there's nothing more we can add to this topic. It is a very heavy topic. It is something people don't realize they go through and something that everyone will go through in some part of the life. I hate to say it, it's there is dirty people. There's some dirty, dirty people at there, and sometimes they don't mean to be dirty, but they're dirty. And so there's sometimes somebody doesn't try to be abusive to you, but they end up in abusive and the thing to do is for try and talk to them. If they say no, you're wrong, you're dumb, then you know, leave, get out, you know, just just don't try with him. But sometimes...

...people don't realize it and just saying hey, what you're doing is wrong, they really Ho Shit. How can I fix it? How can I make you feel better? You know, so like a like we said in the beginning, good community occation is key. You got bad communication, we'll find about a TELEMACA. Get a new cell phone, get better. So where did that come from? Connection of phone reception? IGIN? Sure, sure, just whatever. How is it that of this podcast you are just one day, one day you guys will just be consumed by the dad jokes. But would even one by a Dad, by the dad, but that we wren't today's podcast. So Valor valids. That valid, valid, so bid US intercourse. I love how they sexual Stut that. That just makes it ten times better. I hope to see you well, there laughing at there asses off. I hope to see you next week, but if not, well, I hope you have good rest of your life, future, past, whatever you exist. And is there anything else? Ad Happy Lunar d happy Lunar New Year. Someone forgot their pot remember your valid is? Fuck, Yep, there it is, there it clicked. It clicked, it just took a lot time. See you guys.

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