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House of Cards: An LGBT Podcast
House of Cards: An LGBT Podcast

Episode 3 · 1 year ago

House of Cards: An LGBT Podcast; Consent

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Our topic today was on consent. We played the yes or no game, we learned about planned parenthood consent rules called FRIES. or as we call them french FRIES

Hello, welcome to the House ofcards, where we are gay as fuck. Who that was? We go fromme. Hi, welcome to the House of CADS and LGBT podcast.Avery. Hi, welcome told beauty podcast. Also, gods, Simone, welcometo the GAYEST fuck podcast. I said, house of cards. We'regood, we're good. Hi, my name is Jackson. I'll fuck.Sorry, Jackson, it's still uh. Hi. I'm Jackson. I goby he them pronouns and I identify as queer. cornly. Hi, I'ma very ann I usually hear pronouns and I'm a sexual. Hi, Iam Simone. I go by she her or they them pronouns. I'm figuringit out right now, and I'm bisexual. Fuck girls are so pretty, soour guys. I agree. We should also say that, like we'llall currently knitting at the moment. Oh Yeah, I'm knitting, definitely.I'm working on an offer us. I found my chunky needles. I'm goingto try and make a blanket out of all the yard I have. It'sgoing to be patchwork, it's going to be beautiful. I just got myknitting stuff today, so I'm just trying to knit properly. I Have RainbowYarn. I have just a nice doc blue on that I really like andI ancle right now. But like I have a rainbow fluffy yarn and Iam so excited. You guys, I have like thirteen of schools of guard. It's a sh it's like more. Well, you have to remember areally knits, not professionally, but like professionally. Oh my God, youwant imaginating Olympics the knitting minute. I would not. Oh my God,there were people who knit like probably real life, like people. You know, it helps with arthritis and like dementia. So it causes off the arthritis.To know what are. Sorry, you can help with hand de coordinationon arthritis. Yeah, I need also hand stability. I need that Shit. I'm like, I'm trying to get this needle through this yawn without ruiningthe yawn, and my mind's like fuck, you can the room. Okay,cool. Wait. Well, let get it started. Should be gettingto our game first, or into know, we have an order. I havean agenda right, okay, and can see a gentle open the gayagenda. Hang on, I need good. So we start off with our promotions. We have to promote our social media. Fuck, I need toget my notebook. Hang on, get you. I'm not prepared. Ithought with us. So we have a patreon. I'm just winning menuals soundjust like King Billa. Check to make sure I have the right patreon.So I patreon is on named the House of cards. We have a wehave a symbol that you can see on spotify, which I presume you're watchingon. This should be we also we see created twitter, which is houseof cards them or just house of cards all together. Look, it wasn't. Oh No, on Pamblo will called the House of cards and that wasdid you get twitter? No, no, I'm not on Tas to show.So I didn't do it because I don't know the full okay, onInstagram we are at House of cards underscore podcast. On twitter we are atlgbt underscore deck, all capital LGBT, you already said. Our patreon andour website is house of cards doe or House of cards lgbtcom wicksite. Oh, I want to say I was talking to someone and they said they woulddefinitely watch a podgress. I want to say how to Nathan. I knowthis is like. This is like we may not even be talking anymore.But at the time of this recording I was talking to you and you reallywanted to listen, so I thought I'd say hello while I'm on call.I'm pretty sure I flicked up my knitting avery. We're gonna eat avery.You might need to show me how to knit at some point today. That'sfine, we can do a video chat later. Yeah, my dad saidhe wanted to listen but he's too straight, so that's valid. I'm just kidding. We are welcoming to all sexualities.

It just you know, my dad. So okay. So in first reason I put I put strawberry dress, strawberry suit and strawberry capt we have no agenda. I'm sure some ofyou know about it. I don't know what early robberry out. That literallyis the gay agenda. So you know the strawberry dress. What's the StrawberryOw? I tried googling it and I stare see anything. Avery would wearthe strawberry dress? I fucking would. Someone buying BAPP I HOPA starting shirt? No, I would wear the strawberry suit shirt. I'm own with astrawberry. No, it's like a full suit. I'd be a full suitnot to. So there's like a Hawaiian shirt, but it's a strawberry shirt. Okay, you might wear that, but I feel like you Bo werelike a strawberry cow costume, like, I mean really nice, since theywell, comes in like a big my cow. It's I am not.I'm not a cat. I don't say me, me out, Chima Cow. Is that a chick tock? Yeah, it's not the tick tocks that takeshot swe have an hold of I haven't hold you talking about those andyears kids with your renegade these days. Oh my God, you think I'mon street tick Tock. I'm so sad. I have so plays Potito. No, you have to remember every doesn't know what straight tick tock is.Right, okay, Street Tick Tock is a dancing so like renegade gay tickTock is, like I hate trump and also witchcraft, but I thought youguys were singing the Carol Baskin Song. Yeah, that started out on OkayTick Tock, and then I was taken from us. I'd know, Iknow nothing. That happens a lot. We get a lot of things takenfrom us. Oop like to consist say it like it is not even yet. I know. I just wanted up a pay I made it. Imade a joke and it wasn't funny. No, Oh shit, I gotit. Okay, yes, I can say that. We're not. We'regonna get into that later. So a topic today is consent, but wedo a few things to get to how's everybody's taking let's talk about that justkind of. This is a very heavy subject, so let's start off witha little bit more of a relaxing thing. Oh well, my day wasn't.I was kind of relaxing, but like I'm on medication, so likeit's not very relaxing because I'm like sad. But are you always sad? Okay, but I'm taking birth control during my sad season, so it's likeextra sad extracts, just sad. I hadn't just started. So I feellike Shit my pants every five seconds. My Day was exhausting. I lovehow you say we start lighthearted and we're like we are days we're wow own. I'm depressed. ME. I was dead inside. Pay ifrey. Icry. I never said I was depressed, I said I had sad. Weall know what that means. We're all day disorder. Will all gayhere. My brother's calling us gay. He's actually using the fsler and he'sa strag it, so he's not allowed to do that, but I thoughtI'd expose him. Oh No, nice, he thinks he hasn't e slur pastbecause I like women. Oh Fuck, I, fuck, fuck. Ishouldn't be knitting on call because it goes from US talking about something seriousto be fuck, fuckuck. So you'll get the hang of it, Jackson. Yeah, we'll all trying to knit. I literally I never forgot how toknit. I am trying to loan and I'm failing. I just needyou know, I'm gonna wait for a be to teach me, because Ifeel like, like everyone I watch is always like you do it like thisand then in five seconds they already have it. Not I'm like, whatthe well, it's not it's not terribly hard, but beginning it is veryhard. Beginning I was in like grade...

...three and I started knitting and Idoubled and tripled my stitches every single time. Oh my God, really, itwas awful. I was trying to make a headband and my mom waslike, what the fuck did you do to your fucking headband? Shit,shouldn't say that. I was a mess up. No, my grandma helpedme fix it, though. She made it so that it like tapered.It was really cool. You know, I'm like viving today because, Um, maybe mercuries and retrograde. I don't talk about that. Shame. Idon't know. Like I'm just kind of Iving, like like, do theyhave a control over us? We like it also makes sense of like thetime when will bond and the energies during that time do affect us. ButI don't know if the planets affect us, because that's kind of like they might. That's deep shit. I I'm not. I'm not, which Idon't know. I think the way, or the ocean, sorry, affectsus more than the planets because it is controlled by the moon. Yeah,I think the moon and ocean definitely affect us. Yeah, because miss theblunders wall. I believe in nothing the planet. I believe in nothing exceptDur and knitting. I believe in dirt. I believe in dirt. So quickly, I want to say this. Today we had, I had finishedediting off horset episode, which means when this is being recorded, not whenyou get this all four episode is set to actually be released tomorrow. Sowe currently will pre recording, so that will will planning just so that wehave we don't slow down and you guys don't disappear if you actually decide tostay for a while. Who Will Watch us from the beginning? Yeah,the thing that was Akay us. I love you. No, we havebeen. We have the entire it's no, we have the lip fan. Really, girls are gender neutral term. Sorry, yeah, we should saythat goal. Let's goal and Queen will be our gender neutral toms. Please, a cool, guys and GALS, is all gender neutral. It's likefor reference and DADS and homies and Ros and but yeah, we'll really gladit's publish it. We'll probably going to cry when we do it. Oh, dude, I don't cry. I'll tax a Lo of you. You'lljust send me pictures of you guys crying, can you me? No, Idon't cry either. So what else you sorry, tell on you,yes or no? Game. There is that, and we will get tothat. I have one within in my mind. Are we still talking aboutour lives now? There's something else that was important. It's gone. It'slike, Oh yes, so, as we begin to crawl into beginning toupload again, I do want to remind you we do have a patreon.Now, on a Patreon, we do have a goal. That goal doesnot just apply to Patreon. Our goal is five hundred, I believe,followers or money. Five hundred followers? Oh, my goal is five hundredmoneys deposited into my paypal. No, Oh my God, see, thisis like below you and not a lie. So far, five hundred followers.You are Sam on any on any platform. So if we get fivehundred on twitter, five hundred spotify, five hundred on Instagram, five hundredon Patren, five hundred town below all, five hundred anywhere else where we cansee the following, that will count our goal. Natlee Jackson, Ithink you're aiming a little bit low. I think we got to go fiveone, five hundred and one. Now I'll change it later. Guys.Leave a five hundred and one followers. We we have a little idea whatour prize is going to be, but we do want to hear from you, guys, so we can do Qa.

It'll most likely be in podcast form, just because five hundred followers doesn't that exactly dissolve face reveal? Soalmost like we do spotify, patreon, Qa, if everyone's good with that? Yeah, Yep. And then or we do a oneshot D D thing. It'll be up to you guys, depending on what Kinde of people wemay people that may not enjoy the Dan Day thing and want to hear thequestions for us. Well, we could see the Dand thing until like twothousand. I'm thinking that too, but I do this is a oneshot.So this will be like a one episode thing facts, but it will bevery long. We'll see. Whatever you guys want to do. Just makesure you message US or not message. Don't message US personally. Don't findAsansuche me directly. My account is blond sound all for no, make sureto comment under our videos. I'll meet not comming on it. It's commonunder a post. We're going to post ones on the third, so tomorrow, September, thirty, the first episode. You guys w see that, andthen also going to post today, when this is being published, whichshould be a date that I do not have planned. The thirty s no, the thirty is the episode one, so everyone would have seen that bynow. Off The back Shit. Okay, so this the fourteen of October.Fourteen of October maybe, maybe, earlier. They will be another postand then we should do one on my birthday. We so. Maybe,though, maybe we'll do a Simon happy both day. It's just literally afive thing, which just mean maybe seeking every birth day off key, please. You know I can't do that. My voice is too angelic. No, come on, I'm in music classes all the welcome a bone. Welcometo the Yes and no game. Don't okay, yes, so the yesand no game. That's pretty simple. Will each start up thinking about anitem. Now, because of how much I'm we've used, I'm going tosay about ten question ten questions each, so each pick of thing. Let'sstart alphabetically. That sound good? Yes, sir, who is that? That'snot what's you? And then me and summon, yeah, double lay. So sorry. And will ten questions. They have to be yes no questionsthe person who is thinking of it. So avery really will say yes orno. If you asked a non yes no question, the posting cannotanswer and just kind of is quiet. So we are going to get intothat now. Okay, every you have the floor. Okay, I havemy item. Okay, can I ask first? We can just go andask. Just make you go dumb avery. Is it large, like kind oflike a building large, or is it like tiny, kind of likean object? That's not a yes or no question. That is the yesor no. Oh No, that's is it bigger? Is it small?Fuck, okay, Damn Frog. Is it what? Frog? No,damn it. Is it something you love? I wouldn't say I love it.ME. Yeah. Is it knitting, and I love you now. Isit knitting? It is not knitting. HMM. No. Is it able? Fo Us? Now is not a table. Is it food?It classifies as food. It's in a...

...food group. Rang. What FoodGroup? Is it a fruit? No. Is it a gluten? No,me, sorry, meat. Nope, I'm sat. You, Chileen.Oh Oh. Is it Veggie? No. We have three questions left. Okay, we need to go easy. My brother doesn't classify as a foodgroup to Hannibal Elector he does. Is it carrots? No, twoquestions. Let it class wise as a food group. I don't think it'scarrots. We have one question left. Oh, is it butter? No, but that's very close actually. And that is all the questions. Whatwas it? Milk? Food Group? Was Dairy? Not Milk? No, she said it was in a food group. Oh, you said aclassified as. Okay, whatever, you're right. It's my ton. Scary, okay, Um, okay, I'm ready. Is it an animal?No. Is it a witchy thing? Yes, Oh fuck, I don'tknow any of that. Is it your ruins? No. Tarot cards.No, don't think too deep into it. It's not like very easy. It'snot just a witchy thing. Candles. No. Do you own it?Nobody owns it. It's a public down thing. Is it the moon? Who Owns the moon? What do you mean? Just Bim we hestole that Shit. You have three questions left. The son? No,Earth. No, you got one question left. Someone's twenty five questions.So it's just like bloating them out of the really shit, I have tocritically think. I can't think of anything that. This is the stars.Nope, that's your last question. Are you guys ready? Drumroll please.It was color, just like my yellow and blue Y on. I'm likecolor, that's my thing. Color. Okay, my turn. Anyone wantto ask me with? Oh, if you were ready or not? Isaid I was ready. Said Mike Durn, is it a boy? I don'town boys. Well, so you own it. Okay, not,not yet. So you own it. Maybe you can't say. Maybe it'sa yes or no. Yes, someone's supposed to help unukate for a topic. Oh, is it? Maybe's a No. But is it a typeof furniture? I don't think so. Is it a witchy thing? It'sdepends on what you put in it. Is it a call Dron? No. No, Alans all the way at which you think, although I dohave one of those. Is it a draw no, that was smart,though. What was smart? A Jaw? Oh, yes, it's like.Is it a front row? Yeah,...

...okay, honestly, lean away fromwhich, because you're not going to get it with that. It just, you know, like if you put something in it, is witchy.Vase? No, think more in it. If you put something, think more. Why just say that? I'm not can I give you hints?I'm not going to adject to that. No, not, I say.No, okay, think more stuff that I bring to school, backpack.Oh, is it a notebook? No, Oh that fall. Think think moredelink when avery ask something and then I ask somethink more delinquent. Avape, yes, but can you get the exact name of my vape?No, Oh my God, you're serious. Yes, no, what done?We lost it. You got to say Hannah. You asked an elevenquestions, not ten. Oh, you have to listen. Same on whenwe say we're done. That's all about questions. Oh, I didn't hearanyone. Wey, we're done. Sorry, okay, what's what is it?It was my vape. I do not add too. I don't notadvocate for vade pay. I do not either. Maybe we'll get to thatlater, but for now let's get into a topic. Right, guys,we're getting onto today's topic, which is consent. The dictionary definition for consentis Noun permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. It obviouslydoesn't cover all aspects of giving consent for sex. However, it's a goodbaseline, for just like general consent, a consent can be given for alltypes of things or withheld for those same things. Like if someone asks youfor a hug, you can either say yes or no, depending on whatyou want. According to plan parenthood, consent must be given freely, mustbe reversible, is informed, enthusiastic and specific. Acronym is fries. Yougotta have fries to have sex. You need to have those. And whodoesn't like fries? And even if you don't like fries, you got toget consent for things. I don't know everyone likes fries. Okay, sonow we're just going to read off of the acronym. So F stands forfreely, which both are all participants in an activity. GIVES SOBER CONSENT TOSHENANIGANS on their own. It's not coerced. If not, it is not consensual, and sober is really the key word here. You have to bein your right state of mind. Yeah, it's so will also, I think, should mean not just not drunk a high, but also like,not super depressed, not super impulsible, not, yeah, seeting either,not just social any that is a big one. Thank you. To saythat on next one, game reversible. Even after consent he's given, itcan be revoked and you should respect that. That is okay to take that yourconsent. If you feel like this is going to follow, you realizeyou don't enjoy it if you are not. Yeah, if you're not feeling it, just make sure you as to stop. Don't pretend like you're fine. You should feel okay to be able to say no to whatever you're doingand be able to take back the yes that you may have given beforehand.Yeah, that comment. Yeah, a PREDEFROMATA or is the best thing.You should have a safe for it. And if you don't think of thehead, if if you don't want to have like a safe word, thanjust say hey, if I say stop, you have to stop. Yeah,stop is you. Yeah, when stop is your safe word, heart, eyes, everything should stop. Everything shut there, he, he orshe or they should make sure you're okay and if they don't stop, itis no longer consensual. And Yeah, for that one, I think alot about like like a movie, like if you start a movie and thenlike you get bored or like it ends...

...up being wayfure here than you thoughtor something, and just like off out. Sex is like a movie. I'llmaybe not, I don't know. I'm a sexual movie reelling solid.Your people were just saying movie to everything, like I'm getting McDonald's movie. Idon't remember that really. Okay, I feel like that was a feellike that was a week thing. I don't know. People were saying atmy Grad and they were making out with each other and I was really sadI wasn't included. Okay, wow, movie. Okay, the next fringeFRY is informed all parties and pride. All parties, partners or group mustbe aware of everything going on. Like if someone says or asks a personto wear a condom, where they say that they were were a condom orthey will do something but not another thing, and and they do something like removethe condom or do something that the other person or other people said theywere not comfortable with, that is not consensual, unless you're getting like superkinkyand you've consented to a multitude of options but wish to be surprised. AreAll parties should know basically everything that's going to happen before it happens and Efor enthusiastic. If all parties are not excited about the activities, it isnot consensual. One person says maybe and the others or others take that asa yes, that is not consensual, etc. Basically, if everyone involvedone thousand percent wants to partake and there is absolutely no question in less consentis provoked, it is consensual. Yeah, that's a that's kind of thing oflike yes, maybe, and no all mean no, I don't wantto do it. Yes, of course, sure, those mean yes, itneeds to be, you know, smile on the faith. Yes,see a lot of that. She said yes. Did she say maybe,or did she say yes? You know, although, to add to that,as somebody who may be vulnerable, like if you are kind of ina vulnerable state during activities, you should try and avoid saying yes unless youa hundred percent mean it, to avoid confusion and hurt, which goes backto being freely and you are in the right state of mind. Yeah,and it wouldn't it would not be your fault. However, it would reallysuck because a lot of people would have a hard time dealing with the situation. Yeah, well, said. Is revoked, then fuck themselves. Alast part of French fries, French not being Oh, I wouldn't do withthe French comed the swift sister Tuck my pediment, skaken in Simeon, canyou say it for me? Sorry, specific, yes, specific, Ican't say. I can't say. That would all good. I want to. I want to remind a listeners, I do, of a speech impediment. I cannot speak all of my words right. It normally comes out whenI ours, but specific is one of those words where I just cannot sayit now, probably no problem. We love you anyway. I'm saying thatto the listeners because in case the here, we mess up award, I mostlikely did. Saying yes to one activity like kissing, does not meansaying Yes to another, Aka Se asking, asking permission for any and all activitiesis a must and a need and something you should do, and youalso need to make sure you and your partners boundaries all respected. Yes,sir, will said, especially since I wrote it, that not been talkingall of this. Oh my God, God, we can't give that away. Okay, anyways. But remember,...

...though, consent is not just forsex. It's for anything and everything that you do with another person, ortwo another person, like serve them food, hold them, kiss him, copytheir homework from them, for crimes wait, bring them for crying.Oh My dhugging me and say Moan, only did that once and we askthe type of what. I'm allowed to say that. You guys are soinconspicuous I don't even know anymore. Dude, Dude Jackson's being sauce. Throw themoff the shit. I still don't fully understand, like whats us meansthis comes from. Yeah, I know, I know, I'm just like Ican't. I don't think that. I keep thinking like Oh, sesubway, I'll explain how I know it off camera. So, UM,well, isn't it just among us there's will talk about what? So conventis a really big deal, something that is not just an Al TV teammatter, but also just a general sexual activity battle and also regular activity hangingout with people. You know, if you want to yeah, and Donald, make sure you add first, because they may not like McDonald's. Thatthat is something that, like, I love. That is that we needto stop making consentus a sex thing and consent a normal thing. You know. Yeah, it has to be normalized, and I people really don't talk aboutit enough. Yeah, like it's not music on ticktock. Like ifyour kid does not want to hug somebody, don't make them hug that person,because that teaches them that they have control over their own actions and theway others treat them, or at least they should. Yeah, Me Fromand also I reminder that you have control over your own actions. Yes,don't. That's getting into another fell of the things. But, like,you are your own person before like anyone else, you are what matters mostexactly to yourself. Somebody else values themselves more than you, but exactly,you are not just a flesh and blood that can somebody can just use anddo without asking permission. You are a soul. You have a brain ofa personality, and that's something that should be respected and asked if that's whatyou want. These are as final nervous system. That's pretty much all youare. Okay, let's not freak them out. Come on. That's forlate night podcast, not now. You have skeleton in your bones. No, you have actually Latin and your brain. Yeah, you're actually inside the skeleton. You Have Mu Kiss in your brain. That's true. The brainis an electric meat sack that gets tickled by Sara Tonin sometimes, if you'relucky, and a lot of other chemicals. IOLOGY. Let's get back into I'mtaking bio. BIOEX semestery. Y'All learn me too, oh you should, oh my God, vigorously and sitting. Biology. Biology. Do we wantto go? I can ender this out of for you guys. Don'twant it to do? We want to go into a bit about our experienceswith consent, I'd be okay with that. Yeah, okay, I would liketo start with that, then it is a serious oh this is I'mgoing to put this, I'm going to say this right here. This isa trigger warning. Stand we will be talking about consent and this stuff mayresult in behaviors that may be triggering to some people. So this is justkind of a wall of wanting that if we end up going into more serioustopics, you might want to skip this pot. Yeah, so you canturn that off now. We won't blame.

Put enough round. We won't.We're not going to judge. We will try not to make any toomany inside jokes. What you will go on? We just want you tobe comfortable. Remember, road work ahead, old walk ahead, I show.Hope it does anyway. What does that have to do with consent?Is that a mean? That's just like if there's road words ahead, youcan't drive up there, but, like you know, it's also a vine. Road work ahead. Sure, hope it does. Oh Yeah, whowants to stop? Should we go alphabetically or do you want think? Ordo we want to do anti alphabetically, because we already went aphabetically? Oh, scary, yeah, okay, sky season. Never Mind, I don'twant season. Okay, yes, sure, I'll go first. Okay, I'vehad like a lot of experience. One moment that you want to talkabout and then, if it is one of the triggering start to say triggeringbefore. Yeah, can I do like a couple? Yeah, I'M gonnasaid I don't think I've done any. But also, I'm I was noteducated on concenct until very recently. Oh, me, neither. Well, liketwo years ago. A reason. Mine was like a few months ago. Okay, so this first one isn't triggering, unless years squeamish about delinquentactivities that horny teenagers get up to. A real leaves the call every youcan hide for a bit now. I'm okay. I'm okay. So I'vehad lots of positive experiences with guys. If you if I've set up myboundaries beforehand, which works the best? You know, deciding on what wordsto say when you want to stop, I prefer the word stop, becauseI think it's a turnoff if ice I stopped and somebody does not stop,definitely just don't. The Guy I'm seeing right now really really respects my boundaries. Like if we are let's stay kissing and I say hey, can wejust like watch deadpool for a bit, he'll be like sure, wants somemaccaroni, and that is how you know that's marriage of material people. Okay, she might watches. If you do, maybe like this friend. I amso sorry. I'm not going to say your name, though. Yeah, you know who you are. Yes, my son in law. Can't wait. Trigger warning for this next part, you know, for non consensual activities. If you're treged by that, you can stop listening right now.So in February of this year I was seeing this guy and I was kindof like a rebound out of like a really long term relationship and I didn'treally know what I was doing because I'd only been with one person. Hedidn't really know what he was doing. so He'd only been with like oneperson, and you know, I like knock out of my house to gosee him. Oh Wow, which is kind of a red flag. Ifsomebody asks you to do that, not at all. I'd do it.I mean it was in the middle of the day. It wasn't like reallysneaking out, but like my parents weren't home, his parents weren't home.You know, stuff happened and I kind of felt like a weird vibe whenI got there, but I was like okay, yeah, let's like dostuff, and we were doing stuff, as kids do, and I kindof wasn't into it and I was like hey, maybe we should play videogames instead, and he was like Nope, and I said maybe you should getthe fuck away from me, big you said, dude, get thefuck away from me, little pole man,...

I wish. And then he saidno, sir, and I kind of couldn't stop him and it wasshitty. So remember, ladies, Bringing Mace to your Dick Appointments or justno, get pepper sprain sprayed on the deck. Yeah, that's Mace,but like it's bear spray. I want to fuck it, and that's that'sanother important thing about consent is that if you don't consent, it's not yourfault. Exactly. HMM, it isn't. You do not, you should not, and also it is a hundred percent okay to break noses if youdo not consent and somebody is doing something that you do not know that itis self. Yes, just this is like self defence. Will come inand Shue you and aby will ma keep cookies. I'd also like to saysomeone that I'm just I'm very proud of you for how are you've come.So that's my letter. At my moments of yeah, I'm like really happyfor you. I'm aggressively knitting. I Love You digressively and we love youso much. Okay, continuing, I'm guessing you said you are multiple.One more. It's food related. Nice. Um. So seeing this guy andhe was like, do you want to order some wings, and Isaid yes, let's order the spiciest fucking wings ever. They were called suicidewings it we ate them together. It was a time I shat myself.Okay, okay, but I consented to it, so it was fine.Okay, another that is a shown of consent. That is not sexual.Yes, okay. Do you guys want to move on? Yes, isJackson's charge to share, so I'm gonna do it's not exactly. No,my mine is about a different type of content, sort of. We'll getinto it here. was another Tugar Wanning. Mine is similar to Simons in thatit is what children do, except mine is be online. So Iwas talking to do it that like you do, and I'm homing out likeyou do. Yeah, but I didn't want to send any pictures. Ithink for comfortable with I didn't want him to have those. So No,and he pressure me and eventually he shut up because then I say I'm goingto hate like not talk to you, and then the next thing you doit. And he'd pressurely. It was a psycho for so long and itwas like very much like just just do it, just do it, andthen one day I said fine, Tomor and then I blocked it. Solike that to me. To me it wasn't too bad. I got outof there. I was able to just delete it. It wasn't real life, but that's nothing. If someone's pressuring you and they press like you pressurethem into saying yes, that's not consent. Well, see, it's. It'snot. That is a know, that is you forcing them and thatthat was cyber bullying. That was cyber bullying, dead ass, and notwrong. Where we were. Pink shirt art very illegal. That's child pornography. Yes, can you Lee out of you, Jackson? Can you believemy lip jutted out just then and made me sound like a three year old? Okay, we're very proud of you. Yeah, I love you so much. Maybe, Jackson, you're still put in. I love you.You're stupid. Oh my God, that's how I sho I l this ishow I wish. Okay, Um, so I have one, and obviouslynot sexual go but mine is one having...

...to do with family and how youcan be like expected to, like show certain types of affection. Yes,so it was about two years ago, I think, and my grandparents forvisiting and on the day that they were supposed to go back, I wasfeeling not great, not fantastic, so I when my grandma came to askme for a hug because they were leaving, I said that I'd rather not andlike told her I loved her but that I just didn't feel like givingher a hug. And what she didn't know after is that I heard hercomplaining to my grandfather about not hugging her and how that made her feel.So that that was a little not fun, but still was my body, itwas my space and my grandfather actually advocated for me. Oh, westand your grandfather. Yes, we love him very much. We love bothof them. We do, and it can be so hard for some familymembers to understand boundaries like that, but you do have to explain it tothem. It's all a learning process. We Dance. We love it,absolutely love it. It's pathotic. Amazing. Um, I've taken my slot pill. Now, pills your Regra, no, my Alicsana. Oh,it's just like, okay, that's what it is. Um. So tonightwe be doing things. So make sure everybody that you catch up on apast episodes with will have been up by now. Yes, sirs, that'sgreat. So that is kind of say. That was a concern thing. Ifyou have any more questions on content, you will make sure to have atwitter post, a tumble post, a patreon post, maybe instagram postand a links to help you figure out more out about consent when this stuffis posted. So when this podcast posted, not when we're recording it, wewill send that stuff out. I also believe we will put up thesexual assault hotline and the domestic abuse top line. That is going to join, yes, join us on one of our many calls, which being oneof on all of our BIOS. Yes, so as a remind so as tokind of end up again, make sure to watch our second episode,which was about being queer, forst episode, which is about coming out, andmake sure to come back next week, I believe, to watch our episodeon Asexuality, which will have avery be taking the fall. We Wican't wait. I love it as a double promotion Simone. Do you wantto say the social medias you're in charge of? Yes, our social mediais that. I am in charge of our Fu. Okay, you canfind us on Instagram at House of cards, underscore podcast, twitter at lgbt underscoredeck, Patreon, house of cards website, House of cards, lgbtcomWi site. And for our social media's that I'm currently in charge of butprobably will be for long, you can find out Tumblr, at the Houseof cards, and I'll pay John at House of cards. Thank you somuch for listening. I don't think there is anything else we need to talkabout today, unless anyone else has anything honey like. Hope quick I wantto say something. Or okay, now...

I have no thoughts. Head empty, head of too. I forgot how much fun it is. You shouldall try it at home. Everybody try knitting. That is today's Homewook.Knit and then remember the words yes, maybe, no, and what endall of them means. Let's talk refresher actually, yes, yes, ifit's in the asiastic means absolutely go ahead unless revoked. Yes, if it'son enthusiastically means maybe you should like ask a couple questions, poke around beforeyou proceed. Make sure that it's like good you know that they don't justhave a monotone make sure that it or make sure that they're actually consenting.If it's a maybe, I would assume no, and if it is ano, do not proceed with anything at all. Awesome, that is I'llrefresher and now. I believe this is when we say goodbye. We hopewe get we hope we get to see you. Will Not really see you, but here from you in the coming week before we publish on new episode, and we hope so far that you enjoy the hustle cause if you again, we all prerecording. So if any of your recommendations or topics are nothard and the like next to podcast, that is only because we are aboutto podcasts ahead. Yea. So eventually we will hear your things. Ifit's a big issue, we will do it to do to me immediately.But yes, we are excited to see you next time. By guys,see Y.

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